So I turned 30.
Growing up and watching other people turn 30 it always seems to be met with dread. I was rather indifferent to the whole affair until quite recently. It was a bit late in the day to start thinking about a 30 before 30 list so instead I’ve opted for something a little more long term.
30 things, big and small, I’d like to accomplish in the next 30 years.
Sounds a bit ridiculous really when I think about it. Is 30 things enough to motivate someone through 30 years of their life? That’s one achievement a year, seems doable? I’m not sure I can limit myself to that though, there’s a lot of stuff I want to do.
30 years feels simultaneously like FOREVER and a teeny drop in the bucket. So much can happen in 30 years. For example I’ve gone from a squalling infant to a woman grown with a husband, 2 children, a house in the country, a degree and a career. That’s a fair amount of stuff to have done! In some ways I feel like this is the beginning.
I’ve spent so long waiting for the next step, graduate, get married, get a house, have kids. I’m starting my 30’s with a blank canvas, there are none of the standard big life moments ahead. That’s immensely liberating! My 30’s will be just that, mine!
It’s nice to think about the future though, it’s nice to plan, to have a vague idea of the path you think (hope?) your life will take.
It’s nice to be able to reflect back at the end of it too, think about the person you were then and who you are now. How did you get there? What twists and turns did your life take?
It’s important to reflect regularly, revisit these lists and go for the “quick wins” (bullshit bingo anyone?) if motivation is running low. It’ll also give me something to write about when inspiration is running similarly low.
G and I always said we’d go to a local restaurant for dinner one day. It’s not a posh restaurant by any means but it was something we wanted to do. We waited too long, it’s now under new management with a different name. It made me think twice about postponing something you could be doing now and the reasons you’re postponing it. We were just lazy in this instance I guess.
It’s weird to think about what the world will be like in 30 years. The technology we have now will likely be redundant, replaced by goodness only knows what. Who’d have imagined back in the day that popping a video in the player would be replaced by touching a screen?!
I could be a granny in 30 years…
And so, in no particular order, and because I couldn’t stick to just 30, a bunch things to help me guide the next 30 years of my life… and beyond:
- Learn to bake
- Install my dream kitchen & bathroom
- Address the dungeon* situation
- Have a successful marriage
- Be able to buy nice things without wondering if I’d be better getting the cheaper alternative from IKEA / Primark
- Sell a painting I’ve done
- Master photography and organise our ever growing collection of photographs
- Have a job which makes people say “wow” instead of looking at me blankly
- Take 1 family portrait every year (hopefully twice, once in summer and again in winter)
- Catalogue how the garden changes over time
- Paint the “Wendy house”
- Teach my kids to ride their bikes / swim
- Read Roald Dahl box set with the kids
- Replace cheap horrid clothes with quality, timeless pieces
- Become a proper part of our local community
- Support my kids through uni
- Go to San Diego Comicon. Ideally in costume. Ideally before my children will be mortified by the sheer notion.
- Have more kids
- Install some really funky house modifications. Hideaway beds, stairway drawers, you know the type.
- Learn an instrument
- Turn a hobby into a source of income
- Start some new family traditions
- Create a new photo album, every year, on my birthday
- Visit New York, Sydney, Rome, Berlin, Moscow, Disney Land, Canada, The Grand Canyon, Niagara Falls, Washington DC, Philadelphia, Kathmandu, Great Wall of China, Santa in Lapland, see the Great Migration in the Serengeti, Antarctica to see the Penguins
- Spend New Year in a different country every year (not different from any other year, just different from the previous one)
- Paint a portrait
- Build a treehouse in the garden for the kids
- Keep improving my photography
- Grow veg in the garden
- Own the car I want not the car I can afford
- Inspire my daughters
- Be more confident and secure in myself
- Make tablet as good as Granny
- Challenge myself to step outside of my comfort zone
- Learn to sew
- Meet Felicia Day and/or Neil Patrick Harris. Kit Harrington would be a bonus (and, as my lovely niece informed me, at 27 he’s *not* too young for me).
A lot of these items are big, and vague, and hard to quantify. I wonder if my idea of having a successful career will be the same at 60 as it is now.
Do any of you have an overarching life list? Big goals? Themes? I’d love to know. Mostly so I can pinch some of your ideas and pass them off as my own. I’m greedy like that.
*it’s not really a dungeon but it’s an easier way of describing something which is part cellar, part basement, part house of horrors and happens to be part of our house. Currently there’s just a door in the hallway that never gets opened. I want a utility room dammit!!